Dispelling the Work-Life Balance Myth In Three Steps
- JWB Post
- December 8, 2015
Teresa Taylor advises, “Leave behind the frustrating and useless idea of “work-life balance” — because there is no such thing as “balance.” Balance is a myth! Instead, believe that you can have a successful career and an extraordinary personal life.”
For many working women, it gets really difficult to make both the workplace and family happy. At that, being sane and contended. This article is going to burst 3 ‘balancing-myths’ that we thought could help us ‘balance’.
Teresa believes that ‘To Integrate’ is her only way to exercise this balance. To do so, she has got three strategies to share with:
Be one authentic person.
You can’t be one person in one environment and then switch to a completely different person as your situation changes. Try to be authentic at home and the office. If your work is just a “job,” then it will feel like it is pulling you away from your personal life. If you work in a place that you are passionate about, then you are integrating what you love with who you are. Bring your family and friends to the office so that they can see what you do and where you spend a lot of your time.
Integrating instead of balancing allows you to bring to the office the best person that you are at home and vice versa. There is nothing to balance because you are just living!
Combine your work and personal calendars.
I used to keep two separate calendars, one for home and one for work; but, I was missing work deadlines, my kids’ activities and other events. So I combined the calendars, which caused me to integrate my two lives. It’s one life and one calendar!
After you put all of your personal and professional appointments on one calendar, your first reaction may well be a shock; the overlap is daunting. But this will allow you to see the big picture and make conscious choices. When you have a conflict, chose one obligation and then do not re-negotiate with yourself. Be fully present at the choice you made. Don’t think about what you should have done, or could have done. You made a choice, now give it all that you have.
Make room on your calendar.
We all have said to ourselves, “I just need to learn to sleep less. Then I will have enough time.” There is plenty of evidence that proves that is not a good idea! There are many time management techniques; the best one for me was to set time limits on activities. The trick is to learn to walk away. For example, if I plan one hour to create a work presentation, I stop at that one hour and don’t spend extra time trying to make it perfect or negotiate with myself. I do the best I can and then walk away. The same applies with cleaning the house — learn to walk away.
Lastly, she suggests – Don’t let others set expectations for you, set your own. Our lives are not equations that need to be balanced. Focus instead on integration and being present.
This girl is on point! What do you think?