Emotional Intelligence And All You Need To Know About It…
- JWB Post
- December 11, 2015
Since times immemorial, people, parents, in particular, have bestowed all their attention on their children’s IQ (Intelligence Quotient). But they often tend to forget IQ’s half-brother EI (Emotional Intelligence). Let’s get acquainted with this forlorn brother.
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to manage one’s own emotions as well as those of others. If you want to refer to a standard definition, read:
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.” – Jack Mayer and Peter Salovey
Here’s an instance to illustrate the significance of EI.
“A 9th-grade math class begins on an active Monday. It’s the first class of the day and students are busy trying to solve an equation–all except Patrick. Patrick is distracted and failing the class. However, he recognizes the source of his distractions: under the pressure of helping his single mother prepare his four younger siblings for the day, he shuts down when he arrives at school. His teacher, more inclined to ask about his feelings, discovers that Patrick’s lack of focus is rooted in stress, not boredom. Together, they devise a plan to help him manage his stress so that he can focus in class.”
What do you think would have happened if the teacher, in this case, would have been more inclined only towards Patrick’s performance? What if the teacher had punished and scolded him constantly for his lack of attention?
The child’s stress would have furthered. Instead of helping to cope, the scolding would have caused more damage.
“Many schools around the world teach emotional intelligence through programmes in ‘social-emotional learning’ (SEL) with great success. It makes the students more focused on learning, better behaved and motivated, and improves their scores on achievement tests,” says Daniel Goleman, author, psychologist and science journalist.
There are four sub-components of EI as explained by Mayer and Salovey:
(1) The ability to perceive, appraise and express emotion accurately.
(2) The ability to access and generate feelings when they facilitate cognition.
(3) The ability to understand affect-laden information and make use of emotional knowledge.
(4) The ability to regulate emotions to promote growth and well-being.
A lot of children take a plenty of time trying to figure out their feelings and emotions and making peace with them. Try to remember, for instance, any of your emotional breakouts as a child…that uncanny feeling in such incidences that is usually accompanied with fear and anxiety.
How great it would be if EI begins to be incorporated with learning right from the formative years!
“The feelings students and teachers have at school affect their ability to teach, learn, and interact with others. Learning effective strategies for managing our emotions, as well as helping others in manage theirs, is critical for creating a positive classroom environment and laying a strong foundation for the development of positive relationships and early learning,” says Marc Brackett, director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence.