First Indian GAY matrimonial advertisement published by a Mom
- JWB Post
- May 21, 2015
In a nation where homosexuality is entirely unlawful, a 57-year-old mother, Padma Iyer, has put India’s first gay matrimonial, looking for a “husband to be” for her child, Harish Iyer.
“Seeking 25-40, well-placed, animal-loving, vegetarian GROOM for my SON (36, 5’11”) who works with an NGO,” said the advertisement in the Mumbai tabloid Mid-Day.
Amongst the outpouring of positive reactions, several people questioned the need for an “IYER preferred” requirement in the otherwise progressive ad and others defended Padma Iyer’s choice of words, explaining that it was probably tongue-in-cheek.
Padma Iyer later posted on Facebook clarifying her stance –
“The IYER PREF was meant to be a tease. Though I should admit that is typical that mothers wish their children should be married to families whose culture we know of. My sister is married to a Muslim, my second son to a non-veg eating Maharashtrian, my niece to a Christian and all are treated equally. I would like to share that I am not bothered about the caste or religion of his partner. It would be nice if he makes his choice soon given that he has a huge list of things that he will not tolerate in his partner.”
Moreover, Harish himself posted a status pointing out the double standard of the society.
“Alliance sought for a fair, tall, virgin bride from a decent family, Vadula Gotra, for my Son, Engineer son. No dowry. Traditional Family. Expect a homemaker wife.
– Hetrosexual Parent
newspaper every sunday.”
News reports about the advert became a web sensation on online networking locales, Twitter and Facebook, with numerous clients praising Iyer for softening taboos in a highly conservative nation.
According to Harish, the matrimonial was provoked by the typical wish any mother has to see her child settle down. He has officially gotten six reactions to the advert.
In a opinion piece, Iyer said that it was a test to locate a daily paper to publish this ad and he was very disturb when the advert was dismissed and avoided by nation’s most mainstream national English newspapers.
Harish further added on the NDTV site, “I feel now is the right time we acknowledge that we are one-sided and attempt and change our viewpoint”.
In 2009, the Delhi High Court decided that Section 377 violated constitutional guarantees for equality, privacy and freedom of expression, ending the ban on same sex relationships and starting another era in openness about homosexuality. However, homosexuality was re-criminalized in India in 2013 in a choice by the Supreme Court that stunned human rights aggregates and provoked the United Nations to call it a “critical step in reverse for India”.