Shweta Bachchan Nanda recently wrote a powerful column in DNA talking about the invasion of her daughter’s privacy.

She talks about how many media persons have just been there to catch a glimpse of a “HOT” Navya Naveli moment. Some even say she’s desperately attempting to be a part of Bollywood. Read her letter below: 

It’s 3:00 am. I am binge-watching a costume drama (my guilty pleasure) on my iPad, successfully crowding out thoughts of deadlines, columns, and irate editors when my phone alerts me to an Instagram post made by my daughter, a picture of her descending a flight of stairs.

Holding back

Before I can even click a heart on it in approval, I think… the internet is going to have a field day with this one when they get their hands on it, and they eventually will! I almost pick up the phone to call her and grumble about yet another picture of hers floating all over the net, but stop myself. This is why… You do not know my daughter, the websites that post her pictures with captions like ‘Navya Nanda HOT pics’ or ‘Navya Nanda parties with friends, WILD’! Certainly do not know her either. Nor, might I add, do they have her permission to post her private pictures. She is not a public figure. Yes, she is related to some very famous people, but that is something completely out of her control.

Feels like teen spirit

She is a teenager, and as most young teens are wont to do, she likes to dress up, hang out with her friends, pose for pictures and yes, go out to parties (she has a deadline and is always home well before it is over). If she finds herself on a beach, she will wear beach-appropriate attire — namely, a swimsuit — as would any young girl anywhere. If there is music, she will dance much like her peers would. She will pout, she will preen, she will hang out with boys — the last time I checked, absolutely normal teenage behaviour!

Shadow friending

Most importantly all of her social media accounts are private, and she is not on Twitter. So, it begs the question, how do her pictures land up all over the internet? Here is how. Websites with a keen interest in Bollywood and its goings-on, make fake identities (mostly in the names of her friends) and send requests to anyone following her and often to her as well. They then plunder the accounts of her friends and use their photos to post on their websites captioning them irresponsibly and disrespectfully, most of them stop short of objectifying and shaming her. This has been happening with my daughter since she was 13 years old!!

What if it was your child?

My daughter Navya likes reading, the Kardashians, rajma chawal, curling up next to her Naani while watching TV, teasing her brother and counselling her friends when their hearts are broken. She doesn’t have any particular interest in acting or pursuing a career in acting as of now. She is generous and kind and bright, but these attributes don’t make fetching headlines! Do the adults who run these sites even know how invasive and inappropriate what they are doing, is? Do they even care? And would they like it if this happened to their children?

Perverse profiteers

Navya has a strong sense of self, so perhaps, it does not hurt her as much when in the comments section, people judge her, deride her, call her unattractive or scrawny. But you can well imagine what it would do to the self-esteem of a young, impressionable girl, who hasn’t asked to be thrust into the spotlight in this way. She is somebody’s child, a most treasured and beloved child. As a parent, I sit helpless. Unable to plug the flow of this filth that is distributed in the name of information and journalism, and all in the pursuit of hits and likes, leading to some kind of monetisation. In effect, they profit off pictures stolen from my daughter’s life. If there is rock- bottom, this would be it.

Doing nothing wrong

A couple of weeks ago, another slew of pictures went viral, and I asked my daughter to caution her friends against posting anything on an open platform, to which she replied, “I can tell them, but I don’t want anyone in college to know, though.” I decided then, that I was not going to fight this, I was going to let it be. She doesn’t have to hide, she isn’t doing anything wrong. Her parents and her family are absolutely okay with what she wears and does.

Living in hope

But I can write about it in the hope that the people peddling this nonsense have some shame or at least accountability, though I highly doubt they will. Perhaps if they understood that we, just like them, are human beings, trying to get about our everyday lives while making sure we give respect to the love and affection people show members of our family, couldn’t they in return give my daughter her private life back?