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Drishti Bodhraj Premprakashi

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This Dad Illustrated The Heartbreak That Came With His Wife’s Miscarriage

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  •  September 12, 2016

 

It’s been about five years since Curtis Wiklund has been drawing sketches documenting his life with his wife and two sons. His illustrations have attracted a huge number of followers on both,  and Instagram.

Two weeks ago, Curtis shared a heartbreaking sketch which revealed that his wife, Jordin and he had miscarried. Becoming a parent is a beautiful thing but suddenly finding out that your unborn baby isn’t growing or breathing is a life-shattering experience.

At the beginning of the summer, the couple learned that they were pregnant with their third child. But at their first ultrasound on July 22, they received the worst news possible.

“When the doctor entered the room, she explained that the baby had stopped growing at six weeks, and there was no heartbeat,” he told Huffington Post.

“She was very kind about it,” Curtis said. “Jordin tried to keep composure in the office but was feeling urgently like we needed to leave. The doctor pointed us to a side exit door if we wanted to use it.”

Curtis and Jordin had arrived at the clinic in separate cars. After they received the news, they got in one vehicle together and let everything sink in. “We cried for about a half hour. We left the other car in the parking lot and drove home.”

The couple had plans to announce their pregnancy to their family and friends later that day but had to eventually cancel them.

“I felt like I needed to document it somehow,” he said. “It was an instinct in reaction to grief I think. Some people need to go for a run or do something physical, some people need to write music or paint, I felt like I needed to document the experience as accurately as I could.”

And so, Curtis sketched out the grieving moment of them crying in the car. Once he was done, he felt relieved but suddenly felt the need to share it.

“Of course, it felt too vulnerable, too exposed, to share online, and I didn’t think Jordin would want me sharing it,” he said. “But it felt important for some reason. I hoped it would comfort others who are hurting.”

Jordin was reluctant at first but ultimately agreed.

“Even though I did not initially want our personal story to be public, I always want to be real and approachable,” Jordin told The Huffington Post.

“After the miscarriage, one of the greatest gifts during that time were the friends who reached out to me who had miscarriages in the past, who could relate to what I was going through,” she added. “Because it’s such a deep and personal loss, it’s hard to imagine that anyone else can relate, that I wasn’t the only one.”

“Miscarriage is a very lonely experience, and if Curt’s sketch could help others feel the comfort I felt from friends knowing that I wasn’t alone, then it was worth it to share it,” she said.

“Some of them were so specific to this drawing, like ‘that is exactly the car scene of me and my husband,” he said. “We couldn’t believe how many there were. Sharing our experiences is important. It is healing.”

You can read the whole interview on the Huffington Post here.

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